It's Time To Wake Up- Life is Short (How to Spend It Wisely)What I Discovered About Life After Losing Someone Too SoonLife is short. We know this in theory, but rarely does it hit us with the force it deserves—until life decides to remind us. Sometimes that reminder comes gently, like a whisper. Other times, it strikes like thunder, leaving your heart racing and your mind questioning everything. For me, the official moment came one ordinary Friday night. I was scrolling through emails when a fresh notification appeared on the screen. It was from an old friend, with whom I had not spoken in years. It was an invitation to her funeral. She died only a week ago at 35. I was paralyzed staring at the screen. We always talked of getting together "someday," to have a cup of coffee or to enjoy laughter over memories of the past. All of those "somedays" had evaporated and slipped from underneath my feet, and all that was left now were regrets—a large crater where time should have been. The Wake-Up CallThat night, I came across a visual display made by Tim Urban, the mind behind the depiction of a 90-year life in weeks. The chart was made of black squares, which by themselves illustrate a week of existence. A life of 90 years is spent in an estimated 4,680 weeks! I counted mine: having reached 27 years, I already consumed over 1,400 weeks. Time felt concrete now; I could see it flowing through an hourglass and could count its grains, moment after moment, heading towards an end, moments that stand never to come back. This was not a mere reminder—it was a warning. We live as though indeed immortal, but we aren't. Spending the days chasing the irrelevant, fighting battles that leave us empty, always waiting—for the right time. But what if that time actually never comes? What if, like my friend, your clock stops ticking before you are prepared? Once Confucius said, "We have two lives, and the second one begins when we realize we have only one." And on that night, I began my second life—and I don’t want you to wait for a funeral or a tragedy to start yours. The Truth About RelationshipsOne of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that the people we love will always be there. My friend and I thought we had decades left. But life doesn't go by our plans. How many more dinners do you have with your parents? How many more holidays with your siblings? Such moments are fleeting, yet we brush them off to have another time. A few years ago, I left my hometown in pursuit of a career. I told myself I would visit my parents "soon". But "soon" turned to months, turned into a few years. If only I could see the look on my father's face when I returned. The look was as if he had been vaporized in the agony of lost time and separation. Here’s what I’ve learned:
What Will Success Mean on Your Deathbed?"Her obituary mentioned neither her bank balance nor her LinkedIn profile, but talked of her kindness, her laughter, and how she made everyone feel valued." Yet the painful truth is that so many of us live as though success is measured distinctly by the things we own rather than the lives we touch. We work hard to reach for the promotion, the status, and that validation we have so longed for, believing that in this way they would be our key to happiness. Ironically, when at last we attain them, the feeling of joy within fades away in a jiffy. The words of Steve Jobs during his last days were, “You can’t take it with you” While it is as true, what will count in the end is not how much you have but how much you have given to others, to the people you care about, to the world, and to yourself. Success for me defines in two ways:
Ask Yourself: If today was your last day on earth how would you be spending it the way you are spending today? Well, if not, what is preventing you from altering that? Starting today, not matter how small is the step, it means it is a step toward victory. The Thrill of GrowthHello Buddy! Life is thrilling when you face the uncertain. Development is much more than learning; it's about becoming the person you've always yearned for. Pretty scary, but so exciting at the same time. I walked away from my good, secure job to pursue my passion at 22 years old. Everyone thinks I am crazy. But that risk completely changed my life. It taught me that growth happens not in the comfort zone but on the other side, in a place with discomfort and deep, daring dreams. You do not have to throw yourself blindly into the unknown. Take small steps. Read one book that challenges your thinking. Take a class that piques your curiosity. Hold a conversation that makes you apprehensive. With every step, you're one step closer to becoming the person you're destined to be. A Final Story...Continue reading this post for free in the Substack app |
Wednesday, January 8, 2025
It's Time To Wake Up- Life is Short (How to Spend It Wisely)
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